COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY

My neighbour and I are in constant disagreement over the way she manages her pets. They often come over in my yard, destroy my plants and fetch away valuable things in my yard. I have spoken to her on numerous occasions about putting them away, especially when they are not being supervised. She always promises to do so kindly, but never does. I have applied the three R's suggestion. But I find that the communication process is still unsuccessful. For even though my neighbour speaks kindly and promises to manage her pets better, I find her non-compliance to her verbal agreements disrespectful. When respect is reciprocated the communicating partners are likely to respond favourably. This leads to the development of positive relationships. However, I am sensing that my neighbour's continued disrespect may eventually lead to a negative response. This week, as I pondered on the concept of non-violent communication and its promotion of compassionate giving I wondered if I was being compassionate enough to make this process work. Maybe she means well, but some factors may be preventing her from doing so. What do you think colleagues. Please share your suggestions.